It’s Too Much! I Need Some Relief! #UsFatGirls

bear hugAmazing Share and Conversation in the Facebook group recently.  I’m sharing in case any of you might be feeling the same way.

Check it out:


Anonymous posted:

“I am to the point of an emotional/mental breakdown. I’m depressed and my anxiety level is at a point of needing meds. My job is killing me. Health of a family member is overwhelming me too. I have been emotionally eating for a few weeks now. I can’t seem to kick it. I haven’t been to the gym nor been nearly as active as I was. And I’m so numb to it all….I need words of encouragement. I’m feeling so low right now.”


Responses from Fellow UsFatGirls to Anonymous:

SA:  “Oh my gosh, Anonymous, I am sorry to hear that you are having to deal with so much right now. I know personally how hard this piece of advice can be that I am about to give. Just get in a walk or something that is physical and that is going to help your body so much in dealing with the stress. Tomorrow is a new day and a new opportunity to start fresh with new decisions. Make small steps to start getting yourself back on track. YOU CAN DO THIS! You are worth taking care of yourself and your family needs you to take care of yourself. You can’t be what they need you to be if you can’t take care of you. We are all here for you and just take it one step, one positive thought, one right food choice at a time.”

JC:  “Anonymous!!!  You have a lot going on! You are NOT alone! Sometimes we just need to vent to feel better. Vent away! You have had such a sh$$$ storm this past few months. It will settle down. Things will fall into place soon.  Is there anything that I can do to help? We are all here to support you,  Great big (((HUGS))) to you honey…xoxoxo Call or text me anytime. You are an AMAZING family member to someone with a serious medical condition. I admire your strength in dealing with her diabetes. YOU ARE A VERY STRONG WOMAN!!! Call or text me anytime! You are in my prayers tonight and on my mind.”

TK:  “Anonymous, you are beautiful inside and out and your strength will see you through these challenging times! One day at a time for sure but take a little of that time for yourself-you need it, you deserve it.”

LL:  “My heart breaks for you. Anxiety can stop us in our tracks and get our minds going in circles and think the worst. I find that the better I eat (even though I crave junk) the better I feel and sleep is huge in helping with my anxiety. As is exercise. I’m sure you know all of that. If you are in my region I have an amazing group of moms that get together just for some time to be with others who get the stresses of being a mom and love to encourage and support each other. I would love to have you join us. Message me if you would like more info. I’m so glad you’re reaching out for support!”

CB:  “Oh Anonymous . . .I’m so, so sorry you’re going through these rough times and experiencing these emotions. You are not alone.  I know we don’t know each other, but if there is anything I can do to help to take some of your stress away, please don’t hesitate to ask.

From me (Jenny):  I love this group!!! What an awesome vent/ share/ honest expression of your desperation, Anonymous!! I’m so proud of your reach for help! And clearly expressing your need! Woot! I remember on one of our motivation days when you shared your family member being your motivation.  I’m sorry it’s defeating instead of motivating now.  Wasn’t your family member hospitalized recently? Did fear overwhelm? Do you have a safe place to fall apart, recover and regroup after those huge big scary things? Are all those feelings still stuffed inside causing you to stuff food to ease those valid and huge feelings? Don’t give up ! Your post shows that the fight deep in your heart hasn’t given up! Prayers for peace in the chaos, and hope in the overwhelm!! We can so relate!! Thank you for expressing what others may not be able to put words to. One day ata time, sweetie! Hang in there!

Cat HugAnonymous Replied:  “OMG you guys! I’m in tears right now. Thank you so much! I’m overwhelmed by the support! Thank you thank you thank you! I have no other words but thank you!  –  Jenny, my family member is definitely my motivation. For everything I do. She was in the emergency room this time last week because she was going into diabetic ketoacidosis. Luckily I got her there in time, because we were able to get her blood sugar and her ketones down with IV fluids and extra insulin. It’s just one of many times where this disease just overwhelms me to the point of feeling crazy. Food has found me again and comforted me. I know I have the decision-making skills, but it’s almost like I have no control. At least that’s how it feels.”


Jenny:  “Anonymous, it’s interesting how feeling scared and out of control with her diabetes makes you scared and out of control with food. Makes total sense. Letting go IS hard and soooo scary! It’s like the more we try to control, the more out of control it all gets!! I’ve soooo been there!!! I often pray,

“God this is too big, go with me so I can do it afraid!”

I pray this sooooo often! I’m so proud you are seeing the feelings behind your behaviors. Care for the feelings and the food behaviors will be more manageable. But be easy on you! Moment by moment. And Only worry about today- tomorrow has enough worries of its own. And dont forget to Breathe!”

(Have I mentioned I love this group??!! Seeing y’all support Anonymous makes me in total awe!! Women are so beautiful and nurturing!!!)

LB:  “Good food & movement are important to our body as well as our mind & emotions. The beginning of getting on track is hard cause we re in a cycle. Begin. 1 good choice at a time. Keep God by your side & know always that you re not alone.”

CB:  “When I have these emotions, I feel paralyzed by them. It’s like I go into a catatonic state….and I also turn to food….It just turns into a spiral rut….and I am so thankful when I get relief from it. I hope you get relief soon. Seriously..I’m here if you need anything.”

JG:  I love this, “God this is too big, go with me so I can do it afraid.” Prayer is really all I’ve got sometimes.”

WB:  “Lord Jesus, please bring peace and comfort to Anonymous right now. Help her and her family. Restore and strengthen her. Help her feel your love and the love of others around her. Let her know she’s not alone. Heal her family member and help her job situation. Please calm the storms in her life and bring great peace and rest. In Jesus name, Amen.”

JK:  “Anonymous, stay strong, I know it’s easier said than done. I completely understand. By the grace of God my family is healthy but I deal with a tremendous amount of health problems personally and food has always been my comfort to avoid thinking about my problems. If you need someone to talk to I’m here and so are many others. May God lay healing hands on you and your family, with Him you can overcome anything!”

women_supportSC:  Thinking of you! One thing that helps me is to figure out why health is a priority in my life in the first place? I like to journal and write down the answers to these questions… What do I want? ….Why do I want it? Who will be with me when I achieve my goals? What will my life look like in 5 years if I don’t make a change? How will choosing health affect the people I love? The people that love me? I love the quote ” If we don’t know our why….the how doesn’t matter” Getting at your “why” is one of the most important pieces that has helped me in my health journey. Then, one day at a time, one choice at a time. Choosing what I want most as opposed to what I want now. Doing the do. Being true to my word and what I say I want.”

JR:  Thinking of you and sending you love.”

HO:  “Thinking of you, Anonymous. Praying that you’re having a better week and that your family is feeling well!”

Anonymous:  Thank you ladies. Things are getting easier.  I got up and went for a walk yesterday.  It felt good to get out and exercise. I just hate that my anxiety level is out of control.”


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